The Power of Choice

These times are not easy and its absolutely not at all easy to shift our attention to anything but the uncertainly of the present moment but we all need each other to do so. We all need ourselves and each other to keep life moving forward.

Life keeps moving forward whether you are ready for it or not, whether you want it to or not. Resistance always reveals itself to be the only pain.

Everything does happen for a reason. The current moment would not have happened if the previous moment did not take place. We merely do not always know what caused the current moment but something did.

The only way to be in alignment with our best selves in the present moment is to have not resisted the previous one. Pain leads to happiness and happiness will lead to pain, or discomfort, over and over again. That is the nature of life.

If you give yourself a chance, some time to try again and again, you may find yourself engrossed in some task that makes you feel better. Get your attention off yourself and focus on something that will effect your future, that will effect our future.

I am so grateful for our clients with future events. Events we are currently assuming won’t be cancelled. They immediately take our minds into the future and keep them in the reality that this too shall pass. There may be a new normal but life will continue.

I am grateful for the added time I currently have to work on some long term projects that I had previously been battling time to complete.

I am grateful that I can be accountable to my own time. I still do have the power of choice and the power to choose my thoughts.

I am grateful for my health.

I am grateful that I took that plunge ten years ago to work for myself.

I am so grateful for my partner who is lovingly putting up with me and vise versa. Who meditates with me each morning, cooks with me and takes yoga with me.

I am grateful that I have discipline that I attribute in large part to having been a performer and a ballet dancer as a child. Its coming in way handy now.

I am grateful to my clients that are so appreciative of the time I am giving them during these odd times.

I am grateful for the fresh food I still have in the fridge.

I am grateful for everything that wedding planning has taught me, and event planning too. God, it teaches a ton. And working for yourself teaches you a ton. It makes you stronger than you ever thought you could be.

I am grateful for the work I have done on myself to get me to this moment because it makes these times far easier and there is still room for joy.

I hope....

In the long run I hope these times make us less judgmental, more grateful, more simple, less petty, more creative, more down to earth and connected as we now know how to better focus on what matters most.

XO

Ashley

P.S. Don’t judge my poor grammar please. :-)

Weddings in Madrid, Spain

Recently, we have found that there is an increase in couples who are looking to plan destination weddings. You could explain this increase by saying that destination weddings are ‘on trend’, but we would argue that there is another reason that destination weddings have become so popular. Couples want to escape the feeling that their wedding is a performance and to feel less pressure to conform to what others do. Just the notion of getting away from it all relaxes you. Shouldn’t one of the best days of your life be better than vacation? We think so!

Many of the popular places for destination weddings, such as Lake Como and the Amalfi Coast, are also becoming popular tourist destinations as well. With stunning views, beautiful store lined streets and good food to boot, who would not want to visit these places? I do think finding a place that is relatively easy for guests to travel to is important when considering destination wedding venues. With the right destination wedding, hopping overseas can sometimes be easier than a wedding destination in the states that requires a long drive and is far from local transportation. 

A few weeks ago, I was lucky enough to travel in and around Madrid to scope out a few venues for a client’s intimate 2021 wedding. I could write an entire blog about all of the incredible food I was able to eat throughout the week, but what stood out to me the most were the citizens I interacted with. They are all so incredibly nice and joyful. They don’t take life too seriously and have a remarkable love for food and art. 

Below are the venues I was lucky enough to visit. Some of these venues are more accustomed to weddings, while others operate like tented sites or off-site catering facilities where you bring everything in, which is totally doable for a destination location! We hope you enjoy reading about the venues and are happy to answer any questions you have about venue logistics (or the many meals we had!)

Finca Castillo de Monteviejo

Website: https://www.castillodemonteviejo.com/

Drive time: 30-40 minutes outside of Madrid 

Capacity: 200-400 people in the Salon

Finca de montevierjo exterior

Finca de montevierjo exterior

Finca dE MONTEVIEJO rECEPTION sPACE

Finca dE MONTEVIEJO rECEPTION sPACE

Finca de montevierjo foyer

Finca de montevierjo foyer

Finca  La Montana

Website: https://bodasenaranjuez.com/

Drive Time: 40-50 minutes outside of Madrid

Capacity: a banquet hall that can fit 300 guests and outside spaces. 

La finca montana exterior

La finca montana exterior

La Finca montana outdoor ceremony space

La Finca montana outdoor ceremony space

La FINCA MONTANA INDOOR RECEPTION SPACE

La FINCA MONTANA INDOOR RECEPTION SPACE


El Cortijo de Monico

Website: https://grupomonico.com/fincas-para-bodas/cortijo-monico/

Drive Time: 25-35 minutes outside of Madrid 

Capacity: 500 people seated and 750 cocktail. Outdoors: 200 people seated and 500 cocktail style. 

El cortijo de monico exterior

El cortijo de monico exterior

El cortijo de monico courtyard

El cortijo de monico courtyard

El cortijo de monica indoor space

El cortijo de monica indoor space


The Westin Palace Madrid

Website: https://www.marriott.com/hotels/event-planning/wedding-planning/madwi-the-westin-palace-madrid/

Drive Time: 7-10 minutes from the main road in Madrid 

Capacity: 20 multifunctional rooms and capacity for up to 600 in the largest room

WESTIN PALACE MADRID ENTRANCE

WESTIN PALACE MADRID ENTRANCE

wESTIN PALACE MADRID

wESTIN PALACE MADRID

westin palace madrid interior

westin palace madrid interior


El Viajero

Website: https://m.facebook.com/ElViajeroMadrid/?locale2=es_ES

Drive Time: 15 minutes from Calle de Gran Via

Capacity: 100 to 150 people

El Viajero terrace

El Viajero terrace

eL VIAJERO EXTERIOR

eL VIAJERO EXTERIOR

El Viajero indoor space

El Viajero indoor space


Bodega Del Real Cortijo de San Isidro

Website: https://realcortijo.com/

Drive Time: 30 minutes from the center of Madrid 

Capacity: up to 300

Bodega del real cortijo de san isidro ceremony space

Bodega del real cortijo de san isidro ceremony space

Bodega del real cortijo de san isidro wine vaults

Bodega del real cortijo de san isidro wine vaults

Bodega del real cortijo de san isidro reception space

Bodega del real cortijo de san isidro reception space









Ashley was interviewed by Greenwich Tent Co.

Greenwich Tent Co. interviewed Ashley recently. Catch it live on their blog HERE or read it below!

It’s an honor to be trusted planning an event that client’s imbue with so much passion and importance. Weddings have only the extent of meaning that the client’s give them and a client that hires an event planner such as ourselves, has high expectations. We love a creative project and a good challenge. Also, there is a lot we take for granted, skills that come easy to us that are intimating or foreign to a client. Details that we discern that clients would not have. Details that alter the planning experience or guest experience or both, that may or may not be visual. There is so much that does not meet the eye because the planning just works out in the end, seamlessly. Lastly, we also know our involvement helps alleviate conflict both between family members and couples. That alone makes our roles rewarding and valuable. Gratitude. 

Their interview:

Event Planners, or as I like to call them the fairy Godmothers of all things wedding and special events related, are really the glue to every single aspect of your wedding day/event. They help piece together your dream vision while giving you ideas and feedback through each decision from the catering, floral designs and guest experience! 

Ashley Douglass Events is the total package with the motto of "seamless planning for luxury events". We have worked with her and her team for the past few years and the work that they have done is stunning and we though you should see it for yourself!! 

Her experience in this industry:

Her previous history is in the professional theatre both in NYC and regionally. She grew up in a professional theatre family and was a serious ballet student all throughout childhood so “production time” was just part of her life. While still in the theater as she got older she worked as a staff trainer for a larger NYC restaurant group. For her it was ideal because when she needed a job, be it for a month or four, she always had a restaurant to be placed into and sometimes was helping to open a new restaurant too. She moved to LA in her late 20s and did the same work on the side and eventually her name started circulated as a subcontracted wedding or event coordinator. That was when she first got the wedding bug. Ashley shadowed some designers as well, laying the groundwork for a future job all the while still performing. She then went back to school to become a therapist and in tandem started to book her own weddings. Without planning it a new career emerged and picked up speed prior to completing her training hours as a therapist so she went for it. That was about 9 years ago.

How she got started and what made her choose this career:

Ashley always wanted to work for herself. That was a must. She says she is for sure right brained but also love detail and a hard challenge. The harder the job the better she will do. With weddings and events, you see the final outcome which is the ideal reward. Ashley also has a few other business ideas up her sleeve but we will get back to her on that!

What geographic areas she services:

She works in NYC, Hamptons, Hudson Valley to the Berkshires, Vermont and Fairfield County CT. She also work where ever her clients take her. They have also planned in CA, CO, FL, TX and Mexico.

For 2020 + 2021 we are also planning for the Caribbean and Madrid is pending. Catch us on Instagram soon. 

Her favorite part about being an event planner:

Happy clients make a happy planner. Ashley feels good to be in a job that you are good at, as silly as that may sound. She is good with people I believe, detail and design.

What Ashley likes about working with a tent for a wedding reception versus an indoor space:

She finds that its important to have a tented event even if you are in a location that does not get much rain, having a main structure calls for guests to focus and you are able to do what you want aesthetically. You can be outside in the woods and have a formal event. She loves lighting and a barren tent gives you options! 

How she discovered Greenwich Tent and why she enjoys working with us:

She began working with us back when we were first only Sperry Tents Greenwich. You're a growing company that still feels and operates like a small family company. Clients value that! 

Some of her favorite events she has done with us!

A New Canaan wedding the night after the Supreme Court ruled same sex marriage as legal. Click Here to see the full story!

A wedding at Glenmere Mansion where the bride actually let her mother do a majority of the planning since she was busy with her career and wanted her mom to have some fun with it! 

And a wedding at The Country Club of Fairfield where her parents got married sixty two years before. Click Here to see the full story!

If you are equally as happy seeing their gorgeous events then pop over to their Instagram!

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Thanks so much to our friends at Greenwich Tent for interviewing us especially during a busy time, Fall!

Ashley D. and team

GQ + Sam | Kontokosta Winery, NoFo Wedding

Genevieve, also known as GQ, and Sam, could not be more suited for one another. They have figured it out. The planning journey with them, as well as the entire wedding weekend, was filled with laughter and good spirits. They both walk through life with humor, perspective and gratitude. The love they share for each other makes spending time with them pleasant and all the more special.  All of these wonderful characteristics of GQ and Sam were palpable during the wedding and amongst their family members as well. Overall, the wedding weekend was fun, relaxed and filled with love. 

Below are just a few of the many details that shaped Genevieve and Sam's choices for their wedding. 

They wanted the weekend to be easy for their guests and for guests to be closer to one another, which eliminated some of their initial venue choices in the South Fork/Hamptons. They also wanted their ceremony at waterfront. While they loved another venue on the South Fork very much, the choices of pairing The Soundview and Kontokosta Winery together on the North Fork, Wine Country, made for a more communal weekend and bonus as they got that waterfront wedding ceremony they hoped for. 

When planning their wedding, Genevieve and Sam left their parents and friends out of the planning process and worked with ADE on their own.  With the help and guidance of ADE, GQ and Sam were able to make choices that ensured their wedding weekend would be fun and relaxed for everyone involved. 

When they got a bit behind during planning, they did roll with the punches and gave up control when they needed to. In order to keep sane with everything else going on in their lives, they were able to make time for important elements of the planning process.  We were lucky in every regard. 

Shout out to Groom Sam who has called meetings with our team “Wedding Therapy” more than any other client or person. 

Having an upscale wedding that was also approachable was important to them and was a success at the end of the weekend. They both love decor and are eager to provide their own opinions. They were sensitive to the question of enough. What would be enough for them, for balance in the tent, to not distract people from conversation, etc. I think we nailed it on the head. What do you think?

Many thanks to Carats & Cake for featuring this beautiful wedding. We would plan this type of wedding again in a heart beat. 

Genevieve and Sam’s Kontokosta Winery Wedding Gallery

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Planning + Design | Ashley Douglass Events

Venue | Kontokosta Winery

Tenting | Stamford Tent

Band | Elan Artists - Ground Control

Photographer | Sarma & Co.

Florist | Sag Harbor Florist

Lighting | Social Decor Lighting

Hair | Brandon Michie

Make Up | Danielle Librizzi

Caterer | Art of Eating

Ceremony Musicians | Iconiq Strings

Invites | Sam Clarke (the groom himself!)

Rental Company | Party Rental LTD

Rental Company II | Nuage Designs

Rehearsal Dinner Venue | The Halyard at Soundview

After Party Venue | First and South

Hotel | The Gallery Hotel

Hotel II | The American Beech

Charitable giving through your Wedding | an overview of some charities

Special Gift, Special Day

It’s 2019 and culture is changing. Let’s not get ahead of ourselves and instead apply this idea solely to the context of wedding registries. 

Many couples are making charitable giving a part of their wedding plans. This may mean the couple donates funds to an organization in lieu of wedding favors, food at their after party, upgraded napkins, or any other detail they feel they would have otherwise included if they did not consider the charitable gift more worthwhile. 

Commonly, and most meaningfully, these donations might be made in honor of a loved one who has passed, or a family member or friend who has faced a significant challenge. 

Additionally, the average age of couples getting married has risen and has always been higher in the New York area, where the greater majority of our clients reside. Couples have already made a life for themselves that obviously includes flatware and bedding, so they are forgoing signing up for wedding registries, instead suggesting places where guests can make donations in the couple’s name, or in their own. Furthermore, it is uncomfortable asking people to purchase things for you at the quality you would perhaps purchase for yourselves. You also do not want to accumulate more stuff just to accumulate more stuff, that does not feel good, especially if you live in a NYC apartment. 

We know there are many nonprofits and charitable platforms out there, so ADE is here to help you get a head start on choosing one! JustGiving.org, crowdrise.com and CharityNavigator.org are all search engines to use to start your search if you are in love with the idea of setting up a charitable registry but still need to find an organization. You can give back, or encourage your guests to give, to any charitable organization you love, such as Charity: Water, OceanX, FeedingAmerica, St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital, and American Cancer Society just to name a few we love. You can do this quite simply by making a mention of this donation on the bottom of your menus, on the back page of your ceremony program, on your website, on the details card within your invitation suite, or by making an awareness table that shares literature about this organization. An awareness table can be placed near the entrance and exit of your venue. We have seen couples forgo the awareness table and instead include the literature for the organization in their hotel welcome bags. You may also opt, instead, to put literature about this organization out at brunch the day after your wedding. 

Below are just a few organizations, or companies, that sell products that give back. These items can be given as favors as well.  We write “organizations” because nowadays not all companies that give back are necessarily non-for-profit. Some are for profit, so that they can sustain themselves better while giving back. They can hire more capable talent for their teams, and those teammates can be grateful for being paid what they deserve, while also having work that is real. They can hire employees who need salaries themselves to get back up off their feet and enter the workforce again. The Giving Keys is an organization that does just that. Ashley herself has a few of the long necklaces from The Giving Keys and gave them as holiday gifts to vendors in 2018. The terrain of ‘give back’ companies is changing and, with for-profit companies sprouting up, perhaps giving back will become part of the norm and soon we can all do our part to contribute to closing the opportunity gap in this country and beyond. 

4Ocean: This organization was created by two surfing friends, Alex and Andrew, while away on vacation in Bali, a small fishing village in Indonesia. Simply constructed, fisherman remove plastic out of the ocean with their nets, so that they can save their livelihood, the fish.  The cost of each bracelet, made from recycled materials, helps to clean up 1 lb of plastic from the ocean. 

The Giving Keys: This company was created on a social impact employment model. Instead of raising funds through the products they sell they sell products that provide jobs to those transitioning out of homelessness - hence giving keys; keys to someone’s future. 

Truffles for a Cause can help you create the perfect wedding favors that will give back to a charity of your choosing! Within their box of chocolates is a charity card which provides details of a charity.  This can be a small but rewarding detail to add to your special day.

One Hope Wine was created over the love of wine but also to bring communities all over the world together. “To date we have made more than $3 million in donations, provided 46,000 people with global health care, 49,000 forever homes for shelter animals, 1.8 million meals for children, 163,000 life-saving vaccines and much more.”

Repeat Roses is a wonderful for-profit organization that we have worked with many times since its inception in 2014. It is a no brainer - you pay a fee for their staff to pick up, rearrange and deliver your flowers to a nearby organization of your choice. With this service you have the opportunity to claim a good portion of your flower bill as a charitable donation. If your flower bill is high enough, it is a win-win. You are even sent pictures of your flowers the next day, in their new location, making someone else’s day a bit brighter and albeit fragrant. 

Some more non-for-profits we love and want to shed some light on are as follows….

Wish Upon A Wedding “has helped over 125 couples say ‘I Do’  since its launch in January 2010.” This particular non-profit provides couples who are struggling with serious illnesses with grants for weddings and vow renewals. 

Changing the Present is a company that helps to channel funds to nonprofits through a donation given in a friend’s name. Instead of purchasing a birthday gift or a wedding gift, this company seeks to make the experience of donation feel like a rewarding gift. 

Vow to End Child Marriage is an organization started with the assistance of Girls Not Brides, The Ford Foundation and Hive. The mission of this organization is to end child marriage by raising funds that support local organizations across Asia, Africa, Latin America, and the Caribbean. Both Vow and Girls Not Brides are active in working to end child marriage across the world.  

The charities listed above are only a few of the many remarkable organizations you can choose from. We applaud your choice to add charitable giving to your special day and hope we can help you find an organization that best fits your vision. 

Happy Planning!

Ashley Douglass Events Team! 

Written by Christina Madden, Spring 2019 Intern and Ashley Douglass

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